Doctor Drought: How to Find a Menopause Specialist Without Losing Your Mind (More Than You Already Are)

April 7, 2025 |

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Finding a doctor who gets menopause shouldn’t feel like swiping on a dating app while you’re sweating through your sheets – but here we are.

You deserve someone who knows the difference between “perimenopause” and “she’s just stressed,” someone who listens, and someone who doesn’t recommend yoga as a first-line treatment for spontaneous internal combustion.

Let’s find your hormonal ride-or-die.

🕵️ Step 1: Know What You’re Looking For (No, “Just a Doctor” Isn’t Enough)

You’re not just looking for someone with a white coat and a pulse. You’re looking for:

  • A doctor who specializes in menopause or midlife women’s health
  • Someone trained in hormone management (HRT and non-HRT)
  • A provider who won’t dismiss your symptoms as “normal aging” while handing you a pamphlet about hydration
  • Preferably, someone with zero interest in gaslighting you

Tip: The actual title might be OB-GYN, Functional Medicine Doctor, Endocrinologist, or NAMS-certified Menopause Practitioner (more on that below).

🔍 Step 2: Search Like a Detective With Hormones on the Edge

Here’s where to look without rage-scrolling yourself into a spiral:

✅ Start with NAMS (North American Menopause Society)

Their Find a Menopause Practitioner Tool is gold. Look for providers certified in menopause management – they’ve had extra training and likely won’t blink when you mention your lost libido and sudden foot rage.

✅ Functional & Integrative Medicine Directories

If you want a more holistic or root-cause approach, try:

✅ Ask Women You Actually Like

Your girlfriends, sisters, or the woman in your yoga class who carries three fans and a mysterious glow — ask them who they see. Bonus if she says, “They changed my life.”

💻 Can’t Find Anyone Local? Go Virtual, Darling.

If your local doctor thinks menopause is just “a little warm spell” and the waiting room smells like despair, it might be time to go virtual.

There are actually entire platforms dedicated to menopause care – with licensed specialists who will talk to you while you’re wearing pajama bottoms and holding a cooling fan like a microphone.

Here are a few worth knowing:

🩺 Gennev

The Beyoncé of menopause care. U.S.-based, virtual only, and laser-focused on personalized hormonal and non-hormonal treatment plans.

💬 Evernow

Modern, message-based care with real clinicians who won’t tell you to “just wait it out.” No Zoom calls required – just you, your symptoms, and the freedom to overshare via secure chat.

🌙 Midi Health

A newer fave. Think insurance-friendly, virtual visits, and a whole-woman approach to midlife madness – from sleep and mood to libido and bones.

🔍 NAMS Provider Finder

Look for certified menopause practitioners, and filter by telehealth. It’s like LinkedIn for doctors who actually believe your symptoms.

Because sometimes the best doctor isn’t in your zip code – she’s in your browser tab, saying, “Tell me more about the rage you feel at 2:17 AM.”

❓ Step 3: Ask These Questions (Before You Mentally Adopt Them as Your Hormone Healer)

When you book that first appointment or discovery call, try this:

  1. Do you treat perimenopausal and menopausal patients regularly?
  2. What are your thoughts on HRT and non-hormonal options?
  3. How do you typically assess and monitor hormone levels?
  4. Will you be treating me based on labs and symptoms?
  5. How do you feel about prescribing progesterone to someone who hasn’t slept since 2022? (Optional but telling.)

Red Flag Alert: If they respond with “Menopause is just part of aging. You’ll adjust,” cancel immediately and send them a menopause-themed glitter bomb.

🧠 Step 4: Know That You Are the CEO of This Hot Mess

Finding the right fit might take a few tries. You are not too picky. You are not “difficult.” You are a paying adult human trying to not scream-cry in the cereal aisle.

  • Track your symptoms before appointments (yes, even the weird ones – like foot rage, itchy ears, or phantom zaps)
  • Bring notes. If your brain fogs mid-sentence, the list won’t
  • Don’t be afraid to break up. This is your health. If the vibes are off, so is the provider.

💬 The Elistocrat Take:

This is not “too hard.” This is a quest for a competent adult with a prescription pad and basic empathy.
You deserve a provider who hears you, gets it, and doesn’t respond to “night sweats” with “have you tried breathing exercises?”

Until then, we’ll be here – sweaty, bloated, and emotionally unpredictable – but always funny & supportive.

P.S. Already found your person? Share the love in our Facebook group. Because one woman’s miracle doctor should not be a well-kept secret.

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